I feel this is an important topic to cover, since so many of us are eternally seeking a certain figure, or a certain look.
We feel that once we reach our goal, life will be better because we will finally be happy with the way we look and we’ll just skip off into the sunset in delirious happiness.
But the truth is – the figure/look you want, is never the figure/look you want.
Even once you’ve reached your goal, you still won’t be totally satisfied, and you’ll be on to the next quest before you can blink.
I don’t think it’s a bad thing to be always trying to better ourselves. It’s human nature.
And, given that you’ve likely ended up healthier, fitter and more energetic, you’ve certainly not been through a pointless process.
But, it’s still important to remember that life will still largely be the same. Losing weight is not going to solve all your problems.
Now, the idea of this email isn’t to leave you thinking ‘well, stuff it’ – but instead to make the point that waiting to look how you want to look before you start living isn’t a good idea.
A lot of people say to themselves, or even subconsciously think, something along the lines of “When I’ve lost XYZ kilos, then I’ll …….”
Perhaps you want to learn something new, or start a new activity – perhaps you’re waiting until you’ve lost some weight before you start a new exercise class.
My advice is this.
Work towards health and fitness goals as the main focus of your effort – look after your body, and enjoy the feeling of improving.
Aim to tone up, lose some belly fat or whatever it is you’d like to see, but don’t be too prescriptive with yourself and remember that the expectation of looking a certain way should not be the main focus of your efforts.
But above all, don’t make working towards any goals the be-all and end-all. Go and do the things you want to do regardless of where you’re at in relation to your goals.
Make the steps you need to take to reach your goals into something which is just what you do – a part of your life – and not a whole phase of your life where you’re waiting to look a certain way before you can begin the next phase.
I’d love to help you work out how to strike the right balance between achieving the changes you want to see and enjoying life. Please get in touch and we can arrange to have a chat over a cuppa.